"A year adjusting to these Covid-19 times has been difficult. I want to show that despite the challenges we all did learn a lot. How can I do that without emphasising the bad things?"
We all had to learn new ways to live our everyday life. We had to learn new ways to school, to shop, to keep in contact with each other, to use new technology, to stay healthy and to spend more time than usual together. What we want to emphasise is that whilst there were many challenges, those challenges also helped us grow. What we want to teach is a Growth Mindset.
Here are 6 ways to build a growth mindset in your kids even in challenging times:
1. Focus on effort over outcome
A grade that has been earned with hard work (whatever that grade is) should always be rewarded over something that was achieved without effort.
"You studied hard for that exam, and your marks show that."
"It was a hard assignment, but you didn't give up.”
2. Catch them being persistent.
Any time you see them putting in effort, working hard towards a goal or being persistent, acknowledge it. It doesn't mean you have to gush with praise every time they apply themselves, but it will mean a lot to them that you notice.
"You're working hard at that aren't you."
3. Encourage a healthy attitude to failure and challenge.
Speak of failure and challenge as an opportunity to learn and grow.
"This year you had to learn maths from your computer. That was hard, but look how much you know now."
4. Use the word 'yet', and use it often.
When they say "I don't know how to do it," encourage them to replace this with, "I don't know how to do it yet." Keep doing this, and soon they will learn to do it for themselves. Self-talk is a powerful thing.
5. Encourage them to keep the big picture in mind.
It's where they end up that matters. The stumbles on the way are just part of the journey. Learning takes time and the path won't be straight – it will be crooked, and full of opportunities and challenges, exactly as it was meant to be. Highlight the things they accomplish.
6. Give permission to fail.
Take the anxiety out of learning. Giving children permission to get it wrong sometimes will broaden their willingness to take risks and experiment with ways of doing things. This will expand their creativity, problem solving and readiness to embrace challenges. “Mistakes are great because they show us where the new learning is needed” “Everyone makes mistakes but those that persist are the real winners in life”.
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