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Counselor's Hub: Self-Esteem Matters
2020-09-11
11 Sep
  • Counselor's Hub: Self-Esteem Matters

Here are two things to know about self-esteem:

1. Self-esteem helps you. It gives you the courage to try new things. Or make new friends. With self-esteem, you believe in yourself. You know that good things can happen when you try. Self-esteem helps you when things don't go your way. It helps you accept mistakes. If you miss the soccer goal or lose a library book, you don't get too mad at yourself. You just try again. You find a way to do better.

2. Low self-esteem can hurt you. It makes kids feel unsure. They don't think they can do things well. With low self-esteem, kids might not try. They might not go after their goals. They might be afraid to fail. Low self-esteem makes losing seem worse than it is. It makes mistakes seem bigger than they are. It makes it hard to get over things that don't go well.

How to Build Your Self-Esteem

Try these steps:

Make a list of the stuff you're good at. Can you draw or sing? Are you a good reader? Are you good at a sport? Do you tell a good joke? If you're having trouble with your list, ask a parent or friend to help you with it.

  • Practice the things you do well. Think of ways you can do some of the things you're good at every day. 
  • Turn "I can't" into "I can!" Does the little voice in your head tell you "I'm no good at this" or "I can't do it"? Or "It's too hard for me"? That's you thinking badly about yourself. Decide to change your mind. Think, "I can give it a try," "I can handle this." Think, "I'll give it my best." Think, "I'll ask someone to help me do this."
  • Try your best. You can feel good about yourself when you give something a good try. When you try hard, your self-esteem will grow.
  • Spend time with people who love and care about you. Do things you enjoy with your parent, family or friends. It helps you know you belong. And that builds self-esteem.
  • Pitch in. Do nice things for parents. Help with meals, clean up, or feed the pet. When you do kind things, you feel good about yourself. You get to see that what you do means a lot. Be kind and helpful at school your teachers will notice and comments of thank you and acknowledgement are great motivators to feel good about yourself. Don’t be afraid to shine!

Should you have any concerns, please contact Ken at schoolcounselor@msb.edu.cn 

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