This week, MSB School Counselor wants to focus our minds on 2 critical social skills that our children need in an ever changing fast-paced world:
Believing in yourself to build positive self-esteem and persistence.
“Believe you can and you’re halfway there”. -- Theodore Roosevelt
Sit with your child and brainstorm a list of kind words they can say to themselves (examples: kind, brave, smart, creative, friendly, persistent, talented, musical, mathematical) …add to the list………
Try these sentence starters and have your child complete the sentence with something positive from the list they believe is true for them. It can be their new mantra or affirmation to repeat over and over again. Write it down, color it in, and stick it on the walls of their bedroom as a visual reminder.
“I Believe I am……….
“I Believe I am ………
Being persistent means not giving up on something you’re learning or doing even when it is hard, learning to rest and go again, and never giving up. Such an important social skill to learn often described in modern positive psychology as the abundance of “Grit”.
College admission counselors collectively agree that Grit, Determination, and Persistence are a better indicator of eventual success than talent.
Think you can, think you can’t, either way you’re right. What do you think? More importantly, what does your child think? It’s never too late to model positive thinking and confidence.
Try complimenting your child for things other than their looks. Some examples:
- You’re a thoughtful friend.
- You lead without being bossy.
- I love how focused you are.
- I admire your confidence.
- Your passion is contagious.
- You care and are kind to others.
- I respect your ideas.
- You are such a good listener.
Use compliments often until they become a good family habit.
Should you have any concerns, please contact School Counselor Ken at email@example.com